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Mediation: A Problem Solving
         Resource for Elderly Issues

November 2003
Written by CMDR Staff

Mediation: A Problem Solving Resource for Elderly Issues

When facing issues with the elder or elderly, many family members find themselves unable to resolve what may be even the simplest of issues. An experienced mediator can help families reach a fair and equitable resolution to issues such as:


A Case for Mediation

My father had always been an independent person. In fact, he was responsible for everything relating to moving his older sisters into assisted living arrangements. However, when he turned 85, his vision began to fail, he had trouble remembering things and if we didn’t speak to him several times a day to remind him, he would forget to eat.

My brother and I talked to him about assisted living, but he wouldn’t have it. Then he fell, broke his hip and became completely incapable of caring for himself.

My brother wanted my father to move in with him, but my brother works 50-60 hours a week and I would wind up being the caretaker and having to travel an hour each way to my brother’s house. I suggested that we think about an assisted living so my father wouldn’t be alone all day—some place equidistant between my brother’s house and mine. My brother accused me of being selfish and jealous that my father was living with him. My father was afraid to be alone all day at my brother’s house, but dared not speak up. I simply wanted my father to be safe and looked after.

An attorney in my brother’s office suggested that we all sit down with a mediator—and we did. The mediator encouraged my father to vocalize his feelings and thoughts. Similarly my brother and I were able to present our concerns and ideas. With the help of the mediator, the three of us developed strategies to work and communicate with each other fairly.


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