Mediation Experiences at CMDR

September 1, 2017
Written by Lynne C. Halem

Since 2002, we have been writing monthly articles and quarterly newsletters on the benefits of mediation. We have given numerous interviews on radio and television, all of which focus on substantive areas affecting separating and divorcing couples and the effectiveness of mediation as a means to reach agreement.

Yet despite the dissemination of much information and countless discussions on mediation, many individuals still believe that mediation may work for others, but not for them. Ironically, the vast majority of people entering mediation at the Centre for Mediation & Dispute Resolution (CMDR), leave with an agreement (95+%). Perhaps it is time for those who are unsure of the “right” divorce route to take a step back and listen to their predecessors, those who have mediated their divorce and wish to tell of their successes.

In our clients’ own words; please consider their experience at the Centre of Mediation & Dispute Resolution in Wellesley, Massachusetts:

• “I specifically would recommend CMDR – it is a microcosm of the difference between diplomacy and war.”
  (Married 23 years, 2 children)
• “Mediation took a very difficult situation and made the best out of it. Dr. Halem was able to diffuse sensitive issues allowing us to work through the process amicably. Because the process was so effective for us, our children were really the winners – for that I will be forever grateful to Lynne!!” (Married 20 years, 2 children)
• “Mediation gave us the ability to deal with issues right in the moment with the mediator, the opportunity to start and stop the mediation process when other life demands needed attention. And the mediator’s commitment to each of us and to the process was invaluable.” (Married 34 years, no children)
• “I would not been able to refinance the house if I had not had the practical training the mediation process provided, but perhaps even more valuable, because of the confidence you were able to nurture in me at a time when I was feeling so broken, confused, and lost.”  (Married 23 years, 2 children)
• “I am so thrilled with the agreement and how I thought it out along with my ex and such a skillful mediator.”
  (Married 21 years, no children)
• “Lynne – thank you very much for providing such considerate and helpful input for our mediation agreement. I really felt that you guided us in making good decisions for our protection and our children. I recommend your company to anyone who asks.”  (Married 19 years, 2 children)
• “The most valuable part of the mediation process was avoiding the ugliest part that often occurs when two lawyers are battling. We’ve seen both.”  (Married 26 years, 2 children)
• “We went at our own pace and Lynne and CMDR respected and supported what we were going through and trying to accomplish.”  (Married 27 years, 2 children)
• “Went painlessly in Court, given the Judge’s perception that the agreement was so complete and satisfactory to both parties having been worked out via mediation.”  (Married 37 years, 3 children)
• “In mediation I learned more about financial aspects of my marriage and how to handle my future finance. I have become more optimistic about my future as an educated single person.”  (Married 9 years, 2 children)
• “Hi Lynne, we are divorced! I am free, I feel relived. The judge complimented you on your agreement, as it was so complete and well done. Thanks for all you did.”  (Married 37 years, 3 children)
• “Thanks for all your help. It’s over! And it’s also the beginning…”  (Married 34 years, no children)

These past two years have been hard on the Massachusetts economy. All financial structures in the United States have been devalued. In Massachusetts, well-known business, industrial and financial institutions, once pillar stones of Boston, are now gone; real estate has been devalued and jobs lost.

Divorcing couples have fewer assets to divide and more uncertainty about their future. Mediation is a creative problem solving approach. The process is time and cost efficient.

The Centre for Mediation & Dispute Resolution has a capable staff of mediators that have committed themselves to mediating separation, divorce and divorce-related issues. We are solely a mediation practice; this means 100% of our business comes from mediation.

Please Call Our Office For Answers To Your Questions – 781.239.1600