Divorce Mediation with Benefits – Hear What Our Clients Have to Say

December 1, 2017
Written by C. Ballou

WHY CHOOSE CMDR TO HANDLE YOUR DIVORCE MEDIATION?

LISTEN TO WHAT OUR CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY…

At CMDR, our work is never limited to the production of a written agreement. As you face divorce, we will help you to explore options, understand the implications of support and alimony decisions, and weigh the advantages and disadvantages of different settlements. You will be able to express your needs, identify priorities, and to problem solve in a confidential and supportive environment.

Communicate Effectively

At CMDR we believe that “You buy the product and the process.” Communication is an important skill and, if you have children, it is absolutely essential in order to co-parent successfully. Aside from being helped to “think outside the box,” as you analyze options for dividing assets, paying support, and designing a parenting plan, a skilled mediator educates you throughout the mediation process. You will lean how to propose ideas that are fair to both parties, and in the best interests of the children. This is something that attorneys, who represent one party, rarely explore.

At CMDR we believe that we have a golden opportunity to help guide couples to co-parent successfully. Mediation is the process of coming to mutual agreement and learning to look beyond the past. To be corny, “parents are forever.” Your children deserve your attention, concern, and cooperation.

Listen to Our Clients:

• “Going through mediation and divorce was one of the most difficult and emotional times of my life. I am thankful that my husband and I were adult enough to face one another and come to a mutual agreement. Through the process we each had to give and take which will enable us to continue to be able to come up with future negotiations later. As parents we will have to be in contact with one another for many years – they should be happy and good.”

• “What can I say except that to me you walk on water, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for accomplishing what you did. Everyone told me there was no way [my husband] was a candidate for mediation and not to bother. But you did it! And so well!  

• Also, I’d like to add that you are such a kind person and that I feel very lucky to have worked with you. This made a big difference in the process for me.”

Understand Your Financial Picture; Know The Devil In The Detail

At CMDR we believe that your agreement needs to be fair and also financially workable. The final document should address potential future events and pitfalls within the terms of the agreement.

There is no room to misunderstand the state’s divorce laws, but there is also no excuse for being unaware of the long-term financial effects of all aspects of your settlement, including life and health insurance, taxes, and education and support obligations. You must understand what is fair, what works, and whether the details anticipate present and future road blocks.

At CMDR we help our clients to understand how the financial puzzle will fit together after the divorce and beyond. This requires mediators with financial acumen and attention to detail.

Listen to Our Clients:

• “I was petrified that I would be destitute. He earned and controlled all the money. I had foolishly allowed myself to remain ignorant. Thanks to CMDR, the end result of mediation left me well protected. My fears and wishes were dealt with as were my husband’s. I am grateful for a new beginning and feel more financially confident thanks to the knowledge and skills I gained in mediation.” 

• “I wanted to let you know that we had our court date this past Monday and sailed through it, without a hitch. I also wanted to thank you again for your help and diligence in helping us to work through all of the potential issues in a comprehensive and non-confrontational way. The substance of our agreement was rock-solid, and we couldn’t have done it without you.” 

Maintain Dignity

At CMDR we understand that divorce is emotionally and financially costly. Yet, we also know that divorcing does not have to be a fight to the end. Mediation offers you the opportunity to close this chapter of your life with grace and reason, rather than with anger and vengeful actions that actually perpetuate the pain. Mediation offers the unique opportunity to consider your spouse’s needs as well as your own. Thorough and thoughtful analysis of the advantages and disadvantages of different settlements enables a couple to design a reasoned end to their marriage, and to demonstrate to each other that the family benefits if all members’ well-being is protected.

Listen to Our Clients:

• “Thank you so much for all of your services and gift of fairness and supportive dialogue. Thank you for helping me let go more gently.”

• “Mediation is a wonderful way to put an end to your marriage in a civilized manner; and if you realize that with children you two will always be connected and can parent together – separately without an intense ‘hate.’ The two of you must sit there and face your children’s future care together.” 

• “We had a very complicated tangle of problems and a desire to be sure we all were provided for fairly. I recommend CMDR to anyone who wants to close a long-term marriage with dignity and fairness.”

Concrete Help

You need to educate yourselves about all the financial implications of the decisions you made in settling your divorce. Mediation enables clients to begin the journey of a life as a single individual. Providing referral sources for therapists and other professionals, mortgage refinancing guidance, assistance in structuring life/health insurance provisions, as well as loan applications and student aid, we are here to help.

Listen to Our Clients:

• “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for all of your expertise, caring, and patience. I entered mediation without any understanding of our finances. It’s amazing what I’ve learned and how adept I’ve become at managing my own money. I can’t imagine going through this difficult process in any other way.” 

• “I got my dream house! Just signed the Purchase and Sale Agreement today! If all continues forward smoothly, I will take ownership of my very own home on November 17th. I cannot thank you enough. You were absolutely instrumental in getting my financing through. I will be thanking you for years and years to come.”  

• “Thanks again for your wisdom and guidance – your reputation is well deserved!!!” 

• “Thank you so much, CMDR. You always go above and beyond.”